Do people want other to feel sorry for them because..?
….they had no one to confide in or turn to when growing up? Getting others to feel sorry for them is a way of comfort or making up for lack of parental warmth?
I think it’s a response to a lack of close bonds. Hypothetically, if I make a crisis, and manage to get you involved and active in that crisis, then I’m not dealing with the crisis on my own – I’m not ‘alone’ anymore.
Afterall, from cradle to grave, isn’t that what we do? Anything and everything that might make each one of us feel, even if for a small moment, ‘not alone?’
Empathy is powerful; it maybe one of the most powerful forces in emotion: The ability to emotionally perceive another’s struggle/success. And sharing this energy creates bonds; both negative and positive.
So, yes, it is about warmth, in a sense. Whether it’s parental or not… who’s to say. But it does, in no doubt of my mind, come down to internal issues of feeling alone, isolated, and disconnected. (Not to mention {everybody’s favorite!} abandonment issues. Crisis begets either (1)obligation, or (2)rejection, acting as a self-fulfilling prophecy).
Happerry Chrismahanarammaquanzikolstice. (Anyone going better than 5 holidays at a time?)
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